Right now we're struggling with the one of the hardest fertility questions. When is enough enough? When do we finally call it quits?
I get pregnant pretty easily--5 times in the last 2 years, and that includes taking time off after methotrexate for my ectopic, and after my miscarriages, and after fibroid surgery... I hold onto that with some degree of pointless pride, as if to say "Look at me--I can get pregnant. My old eggs aren't completely useless after all."
So now, a week after my 5th pregnancy loss, 8 weeks this time, we're starting to think about next steps and I've never felt more lost. Could one more try be the elusive "good egg" we've been waiting for? Should we break down and follow my RE's recommendation for donor eggs, even though the idea of a stranger's DNA in my body feels like the most unnatural thing I could ever do? (Don't get me wrong--I think donor eggs are a wonderful option for those who feel comfortable with it. It's just no matter how hard I try I just can't seem to become one of them). Do we try IVF with my eggs, even though the success rates in my age group (41) are heartbreakingly low? I just don't know.
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Before you give up on your own eggs, please try a cycle or two of ivf (if you have the means.) If you're really on the fence about this, I think it's definitely worth it.
ReplyDeleteThink of it this way, with IVF you'll get to test drive more than one egg at a time.
Thanks, Gwynn. That may be our next move, depending on what RE #2 says. We're really fortunate that our insurance does cover it (pending approval, so I hope my history won't be a problem).
ReplyDeletejust found your blog through LFCA.. i am no doctor, but it sounds to me like your eggs are fine, they are causing you to get pregnant.. but could something be up with your endometrin environment? of course, i have no idea whatsoever.. buti have heard of a test where some guy at yale studies a biopsy of your endometrial lining.. again, i have no idea.. but just thought i'd offer.
ReplyDeleteyou have been throught a LOT, i am so so sorry.. so please don't take offense to my suggestion..
also, are you familiar with PGD? i know some women wiht recurrent miscarriage go that route wiht ivf.. it will give you some data on your embryos..
we're doing it, but for other reasons.. feel free to check my blog
Gabby,
ReplyDeleteThanks for the comments! RE #1 thinks my RPL (at least the most recent two, the ones we have no possible cause for) are due to my age, unfortunately. I get pregnant, but he thinks chromosomal problems (due to my age) cause me to miscarry. RE #2 has talked about IVF with PGD...we're still doing more tests before we get his reco., but I'm thinking that's likely to be what he recommends that we do. I'll check out your blog!